How easy is it to get caught up in “I’ll try” thinking ??
Do you hear yourself say it to people?
“I’ll try and get that to you by this time.” “I’ll try and be there.” “I’ll try and do it.”
“I’ll try” can mean I’m going to do this, but really I’m not that keen or enthusiastic.
Or it feels too much on top of what I’m already doing.
Or I’m not confident I can do it.
Or I know you think I should do this so I’m trying to align with you even though it’s not quite in alignment for me.
Or it can mean I’m afraid to fail.
It’s a subtle form of control – I’m only going to TRY so it’s not my fault if it doesn’t work out. But it’s actually pretty disempowering in the end.
Do or do not. There is no try.
From another angle, “I’ll try” can mean that I’m saying I’ll do it but it actually feels like quite a stretch or is actually not doable (in that way/in that timeframe).
So, what makes us “try” and essentially over-promise something?
Can we get more comfortable with managing expectations and setting realistic timeframes based on what’s actually doable? Can we stand up for ourselves, the quality of our work and what’s sustainable?
One of my teachers once explained there is a totally different energy associated with ‘trying’ from that of doing and that you have to be in a different place in consciousness. She astutely pointed out that trying is a ‘noisy way of doing nothing’.
It often boils down to how conscious we’re being in any given moment. Our self-awareness is the doorway into self-mastery and more conscious, intentional living.
Taking a pause in these moments of ‘trying’ to check under the hood and seeing what we’re actually feeling can make all the difference.
Then we can decide what we’re actually going to DO.
Now that’s power.
Have a great week,