It was 20 years ago this month I came back to New Zealand from living and working in Europe for five years, and retrained as a coach and healer. That quietly blows my mind, but at the moment I’m mostly excited about the fresh direction my work has taken and what is to come. My work has always been evolving, sometimes very subtly without me quite ... Read On
The Lowdown on Burnout, Nervous System Exhaustion, and How to Recover
There’s a lot of exhaustion around at the moment. I hear it in conversations with clients, friends, and colleagues. It’s often mentioned in slightly hushed tones, almost like a confession. People are saying their nervous system feels fried, or that they’ve got nothing left in the tank. There’s usually a layer of embarrassment with it - most people ... Read On
How do you feel about celebrating your birthday?
As my birthday rolls around this year, I’ve been thinking about how people feel about their birthday arriving and whether they treat it like a celebration or not. I have friends who feel it’s nothing special and prefer to ignore it, others who acknowledge it but don’t like being made a fuss of, and then others who love an excuse to take the day ... Read On
3 MORE ways to put your mind in service to your happiness
But wait, there’s more! Following on from my earlier article about putting your mind in service to your happiness, here are three more tips to help you cultivate a mindset that supports a positive mood and a great life. Focus the mind on what you want Even with all the experience and skills and tools I have as a coach and as someone ... Read On
Comfort Can Kill Your Spirit
I’ve been super inspired by a number of clients recently who have opted out of their current jobs because of poor leadership, limited opportunities, or a crappy culture. They’ve defined their ideal role or next step and then gone and got it. So good! This is on the back of thinking a lot lately about how attached we can become to the comfort of ... Read On
3 Ways to put your mind in service to your happiness
The mind. Friend or foe? Many of us have challenges at different times with our mind getting too busy or too negative, or simply taking up too much space in our consciousness. Honestly, I used to think my mind was more troublesome than helpful and I just wanted it to shut up, behave and let me be happy. It can distract us or make us doubt. It ... Read On
When was the last time you were kind to yourself?
And why does it even matter? Can you recall the last time you were kind to yourself? Was it so recently, even today, that it immediately comes to mind? Or are you searching through your memory banks to see if you can find something? And what do I mean by kindness? I’m talking about treating yourself kindly in the same small and big ways you ... Read On
Whole Happy Well
I’ve been thinking a lot a lot lately about how many of our patterns and behaviours are driven by a sense of needing to be available for others and to ‘perform’. Historically my motivation for getting a good night's sleep was so that I could work hard (usually for someone else). I was motivated to eat healthily and keep my weight at a good ... Read On
Could you be getting caught up in “I’ll try” thinking?
How easy is it to get caught up in “I’ll try” thinking ?? Do you hear yourself say it to people? “I’ll try and get that to you by this time.” “I’ll try and be there.” “I’ll try and do it.” “I’ll try” can mean I’m going to do this, but really I’m not that keen or enthusiastic. Or it feels too much on top of what I’m already doing. Or I’m ... Read On
Is it time for a digital holiday?
As Easter approaches I'm diving into a week-long digital holiday. I haven’t actually done a proper digital holiday for a couple of years, but my whole being has been screaming for it, and it seems like a very good time to switch off and unplug. Being in nature is really all I’m in the mood for right now, and in amongst a bit of wet weather, I’ll be ... Read On